February 26, 2020

Happily Ever After Fifty Years


Marital advice and tips on staying together seem to be almost everywhere. If, however, you’re a married couple in Christ, you might want something more than a worldly view.

I might be able to offer that, but I’ve been reluctant to discuss marriage for a couple of reasons:

  •         My husband and I married young. I was still a teenager, and his parents had to sign for him. (FYI: our bio child was born twelve years later!)
  •          We didn't really know each other. i.e., We met in early February and married mid-May.


To be very clear: I do not recommend that pattern! Nevertheless, by the grace of God, we have been married to each other for fifty-plus years.

What’s the secret? Having no secrets sounds like sound advice. However, too many variables keep it from being a solid tip, applicable to all.

The most reliable guidance can be found in God’s Word for only God truly knows what we need! For example:

Have a godly attitude. Accept your equality in Christ.

“Submit yourselves to one another. Husbands, LOVE your wives. Wives, RESPECT your husbands,” Ephesians 5:21, 33.

“Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be harsh with them,” Colossians 3:19.

“Husbands, be considerate of your wives. Treat her with understanding. She might not be as strong as you, but you are fellow heirs of the grace of life. This way your prayers will not be hindered,” 1 Peter 3:7.

Remain true to each other.

“Marriage must be honored by all, and husbands and wives must be faithful to one another,“ Hebrews 13:4.

Have each other’s back! Be supportive of one another.

“Encourage one another. Build each other up,” 1 Thessalonians 5:11.

Call on the Lord. Ask for God’s help – especially during or after an argument!

Jesus promised, “Whenever two or more gather in My Name, I Am there with them,” Matthew 18:20.

Remember: Praying together is the most intimate thing you can do.

“And, this I pray: That your love keeps growing in true knowledge, discernment, and insight, so you can discern and decide what is best,” Philippians 1:9-10.


Mary Sayler, ©2020, Christian poet-writer, forever wife, and author of What the Bible Says About Love


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